How often the child pushes his mother's hand if he is already fed up and does not want to swallow another spoon, which the persistent parent tries to shove in his mouth.

Depression, like a stubborn mother, feeds a person with a negative, wraps her victim with a fluffy blanket of sadness. Depression guarantees the predictability of an unhappy future. Depression slips a cozy habit of grief.

If the first morning thought is the realization of one's grief, then at this point one should think about why the feeling of hopelessness has become familiar. After all, there was a substitution of the colorful palette of the world, which grief eclipsed, convincing you that there is nothing else, but this is really not the case.

Apply the laws of cooking: if the dish is not spicy enough, add the spices. In the translation of the language of grief, it can be a meeting with good friends who do not yet know about the grief that has befallen you. You can behave as if nothing had happened. Try it!

When a person is well, he usually does not think for what reason he is happy. A grief is a continuous process, the goal of which is to convince oneself that a depressed state is the only possible reaction. By no means! And what about the opposition of grief ?!

And in general, you never thought that happiness by definition is a more natural attitude, it is a more inherent condition for any adult, not to mention children. A grief is a state artificially supported by our mind. The brain makes a person stay within the bounds of grief. Than just does not use the human mind in order to manipulate the feeling of complete traps and despair!

To keep us in misfortune, our brain whispers us about the sense of duty, then appeals to the tradition of our ancestors, then projects our gloomy forecasts for an unending future. In this case, mind you, none of the happy people, in principle, never worries whether he will be as happy after 10 years or not. But an unfortunate person usually projects his current state for the rest of his life. Thus, he programs himself for an unlimited extension of his negative state. So should not you assign yourself a specific period after which life should go back to normal? Tell yourself: "Everything, in a month will let go, it will ease!" And then wait for the end of the month with the certainty that you will finally stop waking up from the hardest burden on your heart.

You should concentrate on what else is in your life, except for the grief that has fallen on you. For sure, in the dry balance you will have real advantages. You should try on a long-forgotten smile; It is necessary to put a barrier to the habitual negativity ...

What if, really, try? After all, sooner or later the vast majority of people cope with the shock of loss. It turns out that it is possible to deliberately hasten this process and, thus, to win months from life, and even years. This time you can live happily, instead of imprisoning yourself in a cage called "depression."

Let's try to resist! Let's show obstinacy! We will not give up a single inch of our territory! We will conquer new frontiers of happiness!

The first step along this path is the conscious renunciation of grief. We must stop loving our grief. And yet - in no case can one personify his grief with love for a man who is lost.

Ultimately, time will do its job and brighten up the memory of a hopelessly lost person or of lost happiness. We propose to shorten this painful stage and intelligently accept the changed reality.

So, for the cause! We will find around ourselves the pearls of positive and we will carefully string them on the thread of our lives. It is this thread that will lead us out of the hopeless darkness of grief.